False expectations are one of the primary causes of conflict, whether it be at work, in business, or in relationships. Such expectations reveal anemic communication. If there is a vacuum in what is not said, our mind will fill it with biased and inaccurate expectations.
Authentic faith is packed with expectations in the face of great risk. But this hope is based upon obedience to what the Spirit has implanted in your heart. Presumption (false expectations) is based on a mix of imagination and scripture taken out of context. Those components can concoct what sounds exhilarating until it ends in heartache. Those cursed expectations can crush us.
A false assumption or misunderstanding, tragic loss, or crisis exposes the depth of trust in God’s sovereignty, love, and wisdom. Judas Iscariot is a classic example of this. It becomes clear when you compare his failure with Peter’s. Judas’s imagination of Jesus being king and how it would benefit him led him to try to do what Jesus’ mother Mary did to Jesus. In John 2:2-8, she essentially pushed Him into performing His first miracle of turning water into wine. Judas’ fantasies plus the miracles he saw Jesus do motivated him to try to force Jesus to use His power to become the earthly King of the Jews. He was so crushed after he realized his mistake; he committed suicide. In contrast, Peter’s failure led him to weep bitterly (Luke 22:62), yet he knew Jesus well enough that he repented and stayed the course and His relationship with Jesus was restored.
David wrote a verse that is very revealing of God’s ways of working with us. “You have allowed me to suffer much hardship, but you will restore me to life again and lift me up from the depths of the earth.” Psalm 71:20 (NLT2). This addresses the depth and width of God’s love and grace. As the Father did with Jesus, He will allow us to “suffer much hardship” in order to reshape us more into His likeness. But, like Peter, we must focus on His character and stay the course.
The writer of Hebrews also allows us to see God’s ways of working with us. Referring to when God shook the earth and spoke to the early Hebrews, he wrote, “At that time his voice shook the earth, but now he has promised, “Yet once more I will shake not only the earth but also the heavens. This phrase, ‘Yet once more’, indicates the removal of things that are shaken—that is, things that have been made—in order that the things that cannot be shaken may remain”. Hebrews 12:26-27 (ESV) This reminds me of shaking rugs to get the dirt out. There are times when our understanding of God, our belief system, or presumptions will be shaken so violently that whatever is not deeply implanted in our inner being by His Spirit will fall out. Why? So that we can find just how strong our faith and love for God really is. What is genuine will not only remain, but it will also be taken to a new level of faith and love in Him. How do I know? Connie’s graduation has violently shaken my life to the point where I felt so lost as to where to step next. But in His amazing grace and love, He is shaping my love and faith in Him to be stronger than ever. All the dust hasn’t totally settled yet, but from what I can see through the fog, my relationship with Him and trust in Him is tighter than ever.
What kind of expectations might you have of God? Are they based on what you been told or what you have found to be true through your study of His Word and the trials He allowed you to endure? Christ is making a church, “without spot or wrinkle or any such thing” (Ephesians 5:27).