I’m ashamed to admit that my date-life with Connie in college was very pathetic! I was wrestling with God, which meant I was on again, off again, in romancing her. She certainly deserved far more consistency, but I was so preoccupied with my skirmish with God’s call on my life that I was unable to even see what I was doing to her. Unfortunately, the skirmish with God lasted for years. However, God was merciful and enabled me to stabilize enough to show her love and marry her. Little did I know then how much I would need her strength in the years ahead.
I realize my contest with God was unique, but I have watched so many through the years who are on again, off again in their relationship with God. The things of this world pull their attention away from God’s plan. Some struggle with being content with their jobs, finances, relationships, or ambitions. While they verbally committed themselves to loving God, they repeatedly committed spiritual adultery with attractions of life around them. The early Hebrews treated God the same way for millennia.
Jesus said explicitly, “Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in me, he is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned.” John 15:4-7 (ESV) The operative word in this context is “abide.” The word means to remain continuously in an unbroken, personal relationship. He desires to abide in us, yet His abiding is contingent upon our continuing to cultivate intimacy with His presence. The cost of not doing so is unbearable.
God allows us—each of us and all of us—to have our own way. God’s way is far better. But on earth, His authority is available, not forced. Each of us has his or her own kingdom where he or she is king or queen of his or her own kingdom—life. In order for “thy kingdom come, thy will be done” to be a reality in our lives, we must literally surrender our little kingdoms to God’s rule so He can rule. But surrender requires more than lip service. It requires a conscious, heartfelt transfer of power and authority from us to God. For example, in practice, this means our sovereignty to choose how we think about and treat others matters to God. Jesus taught having any form of contempt (saying “Raca” to others – Matthew 5:22) is not in alignment with His kingdom life.
To receive Jesus’ promises, we must realize that prioritizing our will over God’s will limits His power to work in and through us.
In the simplest of terms, the more effort we make to seek intimacy with God, the more abundant life and joy we will experience on this earth. We cannot have it both ways. Our obsession with independence is our subtle enemy to the best life possible. You and I determine our destiny.
